Thursday, March 15, 2007

LOSS OF A FRIEND

I have a friend...correction, I HAD a friend. Her name is Jennifer. I have lost her. I have no idea why. I am clueless as to what must have happened. I am saddened by this loss.

Jennifer and I met during our first week of college at Texas Tech University. She was one of a group of us that called ourselves "The Chicas." (I know...corny, but it was early 90s and we were a bit silly.) Anyway, Jennifer and the rest of us (a total of 5 girls) did a lot of things together. I was the prankster. (Hmmmm...that could explain my need to go BACK to college and actually graduate.) But, we had a good time. Once a semester, we dressed up and went out to eat at some restaurant that we could only afford once a semester. We called it "Chica-night.) Then, we would gather in one of our dorm-rooms, drink Dr Pepper, eat M&M's and have a sleep-over. Fun, huh?

I was the first to get married. All 4 of my friends were in my wedding. I was in 3 of the other 4 weddings. I was Jennifer's Matron-of-Honor. It was a nice wedding. In fact, I think it will be about 11 years this April.

I heard from Jennifer last when she was pregnant with her 2nd child. Suddenly, I never knew when she moved or had other children. It's like she fell off the face of the earth...except she didn't. :-(

I have "googled" her a few times. I know that she has moved. I know the hospital her hubby (a doctor) works in. I have sent her Christmas cards and birthday greetings. I even found a place where she works and sent an email through the "contact us" portion. I told them that I was an old friend and I was looking for her. I asked that they please let her know and have her email me. They said they would. That was about 2 months ago.

I'm having trouble saying goodbye to Jennifer, though it's been about 6 years since I heard from her. I don't want to seem like I'm stalking her. I guess I'll just stop trying to contact her. My mother says that friends are there for a season. I know the season has changed for us, but I didn't see any signs. My hubby thinks I should call and say, "What's up with all this?" I can't seem to grovel...nor can I be tacky to her.

No...I guess I'll just say goodbye. There is a chance, though slight, that she could read this. I've sent her the address when I practically begged her to write to me.

If you are reading this, Jennifer, thank you for a wonderful friendship. It was too short, but it was lovely. If you ever need a friend, you always have one in me. God bless you and your little family. Goodbye.

4 comments:

I think you're crazy just like me said...

aww that is kinda sad LL. I think I am gonna call my friend Jen..havent talk to here in a little while.

Anonymous said...

I went through this. 17 year friendship. She moved. We remained close. Visits. One topic we disagreed on. Just different opinions. She severed the relationship COMPLETELY. I've no idea why. Did the reaching out to at least get some understanding. Nada. I had to grieve her as if it were a death. I also needed 'closure'...gave her a 'good-bye' email but let her know I was deeply hurt. It did bring peace to me. Hope you get peace on this.

Mommy Spice said...

I have been there, and I really do understand that some friends are for a season. It's hard to imagine at the time that you could ever stop contact, but it happens. I'm sorry it's happened this way for you. I hope you do find her, or she finds you.

Lesli said...

We all go through it I think. Some people feel that is a certain part of their life that should be over as I think we both have one of those in common. Some think their life has gone a different direction and they do not have the time for those friends because they have made new ones they feel is more appropriate for their life style. Friends are just that. Friends. No matter where your life is now if you have children..you have common ground. I love you girl!