"Friends are for a season."
This tidbit was given to me by my mother when I was pregnant with my 4th child. I was having trouble with a dear friend of mine because she was judgmental...or at least, it seemed to me that she was.
I went through a phase of life thinking that I had lots of true friends. I would pity the person who held the idea that "you are lucky if you have at least 5 really true friends."
Well, I thought I was there. It turns out, though, that I have LOTS of acquaintances and just a few friends. And by "friend" I mean a true-blue, call in the middle of the night, take my 4 kids in a flash, type of person.
The thing that bothers me is this: I would do the above for any number of people, despite the "season" of our friendship.
I admit to being a bit naive. (My hubby knows this more than anyone and he knows how hurt, bruised and upset I get when I feel that I have been misjudged, misunderstood, or just plain picked on.) But in my "old" age, though I still have those ideals and a touch of naivete, I have accepted the fact that a lot of folk are just plain full of IT with no intention of giving....only getting.
People (myself included) get insulted when their ideas aren't taken or when a better idea is presented. We tend to surround ourselves with people who agree in the same way, and when they don't, often-times, it is a "deal-breaker" in the relationship.
Most have gone through the gaining and losing of friends. I hesitate to say "losing" friends as I think difficult times simply reveal the actuality of a friend. This was felt by many of my acquaintances last year when a large group of us, who had been "cyber-friends" for several years, suddenly had issues.
Issues to the point that we were split into "factions" (for lack of a better word.)
Remembering what went on truly revealed who the real friends were. And the ones who were true-blue, remain so today. I keep up with most of these ladies....and they keep up with me. We politely "ignore" each other until something nice needs to be said; then we just as politely respond with some nicety. Sad, huh? It remains to be seen whether these relationships will ever be salvaged and restored to what we once thought, and wanted, them to be.
I don't know why I decided to post this. I don't think it is one of the 4-5 annual "Girlfriends' Day"s, or "Hug a Bud" or whatever is going on. I just did.
So, a big shout out to my TRUE friends....and a friendly shout out to those who are simply friends out of season.