Saturday, February 05, 2011

My Friend

I have this friend on facebook. I DO know her IRL. I know her sister. Her mom. Even her nephew. She has a wonderful outlook. She has a passion for the Lord and the Word of God. AND, she is having a hard time.

Her issue, to my knowledge, is that she doesn't know how effective she is being.

I know how she feels.

She is hurting because some that probably need to "hear" her words, don't acknowledge what is being said. I can imagine that some are being a bit ugly toward her, too.

I can only go by my own experience on that.

I had a "friend" who did not..... um.... appreciate the fact that I am confident in my faith.

It is a hard thing to go through. Is it persecution? Gosh.... I don't know that I would go that far. We are told that we are judgmental and intolerant. We are told that we "just don't know" what is in store in the here-after.

See.... that is where the actual conflict is. We DO know.... and because others don't seem to, then they attack our position, instead of searching it out on their own.

I am sorry for my friend. Not sorry as in pity. But, I do empathize with her hurting heart right now. I pray that she doesn't listen to the nay-sayers. I pray that she continues to post what God puts on her heart.

Specifically, to my friend: It is not your job to make sure that everyone reads what you say, or takes it to heart. It is not your job to make sure that this opens up meaningful dialogue between you and the reader. Your job is to listen to the Most High and post what He impresses upon you to post.

Remember, Jesus ministered in "small settings," too. You will reach the one who needs to read at the time. God will make sure of that.

Galatians 6:9 ~ And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.

Thursday, February 03, 2011

MICROTIA - SURGERY #2

February 1st brought the 2nd surgery for my sweet boy. If you click on some of these links, you will kind of get an idea of our journey:








The day before my hubby and 3rd son made the trek to the hospital to begin all of the pre-op stuff. Along with their departure came weather. Bad. Weather.

I had debated dropping off my 3 other children at school, then going to the hospital to sit through the surgery and recover and then return to pick up the boys. I never got the chance as icy conditions closed every school in the metroplex.

All that aside, let me give you a run down of what went down.

The boys left about 1:30 Monday afternoon. They went for pictures of #3s ears. He had vitals taken. And then the surgeon, and his Fellow, checked out the ear and gave last minute instructions.

After, Daddy and son ate at the food court of the area mall. I don't know. I would have chosen something different, however, I'm sure Daddy did what #3 wanted. Then, they went to see "Gulliver's Travels" and had even more junk food.

They stayed in a hotel overnight, as they had to check in at 6 in the morning. Good thing, too, as the ice on the roads would have prevented the trip, in all likelihood.

Number 3 went back right away to have more vitals taken, change into his gown, and drink his "goofy juice." After watching a bit of a movie, the goofy juice kicked in and #3 was wheeled to surgery.

Unlike the last 5 hour surgery, this one only took about 3 hours. He still had a little nausea coming out of the anesthesia, but he was able to eat a bit sooner than last time. They braved the weather and made it home about 5:00 p.m.

SO, what did they do? Well, they actually cut around the cartilage and lifted his ear off his head. So, think about that.... when it's lifted, on the back of the ear you have bare cartilage and where the ear was, you have skull. To cover that, the surgeons performed a skin-graft. The skin came from his heiney-bo.... and that is the most uncomfortable for him right now. It's just itchy.

Before we get to the pictures, let's talk money.

The surgeries.... well, I don't even know how much all 3 will cost, but so far, we have been billed about $100,000. At this point, we have paid about $500 for the first. I don't know how typical this is, nor do I know what will be our final out-of-pocket for the first surgery. Our surgeon's people and the insurance company are still working on things.

For the 2nd surgery, we have not received a bill yet, but we have paid about $3,000.

We are praying, of course. Praying that we get it all worked out. Praying that we don't have to pay NEAR what has already been billed, much less what will be billed. But, you know what? God provides. There has never been any question as to whether, or not, we would do this.

GOD PROVIDES!!!

Now, on to the pictures:

In the waiting room awaiting pre-op

Picture time


This place has fabulous cupcakes

Even if it's not the healthiest, he DESERVED a chocolate cupcake AND a DP

Where the surgeries are taking place

On the giant caterpillar

Weighing in

Tall enough?

Taking vitals

The last day "Verne" will look like this. Yes, we named the ear "Verne." And his chest scar? "Steve"

Dr. Fearon (on the right) and his Fellow

Waking up on the big day

Going up to the surgical floor

Playing in the "tree-house" while waiting

MORE vitals

Waiting for the rolling bed

They have the same movies, but they are much more interesting when they belong to someone else

Drinking "goofy juice"

I feel so bad that he was alone while waiting. And when I say, "alone,".... well, look at the place. #3's was the only surgery going on at the time.

In recovery

Lots of fluid. The yellow is a gauzy bandage stitched to the back of the ear.... protecting the new skin

No words. :-(

Awake

The rolling chair... always fun


The ear on Feb. 3rd. The surgery was Feb. 1st.

I know this is a bit graphic, but my goal with these posts is FULL-DISCLOSURE. I had trouble finding out this stuff. I want anyone going through this to be able to know about the money issues, the doctors/hospitals we deal with and the actual procedure. The "bloody" pack is actually expected and normal. As long as the color doesn't change and there is no "off" smell, we are good. You can see, the top left of the "patch" the raw skin.


As horrible and painful as it all looks, this is #3 on Feb. 2nd.... playing "ice-soccer" in the backyard. I had to call him off the trampoline several times.

To all my friends and family reading this, thank you for the continued prayers.

To anyone researching this, if you have any questions, I am happy to answer them. Just leave a comment and a way to contact you. I will tell you all I can.

Sunday, January 30, 2011

Thursday, January 27, 2011

ANOTHER BULLET

This will be another bullet post because I'm behind in my goals of blogging more and... well, bullets don't have to make sense.... I can just dump my thoughts.

  • I like The Little House on the Prairie.... the show.
  • I record it when it is on.
  • Next month, I won't get the Hallmark channel.... with TLHOTP show.
  • You know one of the last posts about the kids being sick?
  • Doesn't compare to now.
  • Don't remember where I left off.
  • Sunday, about 2 weeks ago, #4 started puking and "leaking" other fluids.
  • Monday, #2 and #3 had the same thing.
  • Tuesday, the 3 boys still puny.
  • Wednesday, we kept the kids home, just in case.
  • Wednesday was my day for the multiple bathroom visits. :-(
  • Thursday and Friday.... all was well.
  • Saturday, #4 had fever.
  • Sunday, #4 and #1 had fever.
  • Monday, #2, 3, and 4 went to school.
  • #1 stayed home.
  • Tuesday, #1 went to doctor.... confirmed flu.
  • Tuesday, #4 went to doctor.... confirmed pink-eye.
  • Wednesday, (yesterday) #3 went to doctor.... confirmed strep.
  • Wednesday, hubby, while out of the state flying, calls and says he probably has the flu.
  • Saturday, #1 is supposed to compete at JBQ.
  • After missing an entire week of school.
  • I'm supposed to quiz master aforementioned event.
  • Tuesday, #3 is supposed to have 2nd ear surgery.
  • Trying to keep him healthy... despite the strep.
  • Note from doctor keeping him out of school until after surgery.
  • My house is a mess.
  • I'm so tired.
  • I feel sorry for myself.
  • Kinda.
  • But, I'm better now.
  • Kinda had an online break-down last night.
  • Got some wonderful women of God, some true friends, to bombard Heaven for me.
  • Thank you!
  • I felt the prayers.
  • I have no idea how people go through life without God.
  • Need to post some more on the surgery.
  • We have had money things happen.
  • I am wanting to give explicit details on these surgeries.
  • Let people know what I didn't know before hand.
  • Working on getting my application activated for the school my kids go to.
  • What a pain.
  • Seriously.
  • A pain.
  • I will no longer buy milk from HEB!
  • I love HEB.
  • The store is cleaner than WM.
  • Their produce is better.
  • AND, I don't care what people say, it is way cheaper than WM.
  • BUT.....
  • There it is.... BUT
  • Hubby got milk there a few weeks ago.
  • Opened up a new gallon.
  • It was chunky.
  • Blew it off.
  • It happens.
  • I poured some whole milk into #3's cereal this morning.
  • Chunky.
  • The date was Feb. 4.
  • FEBRUARY 4!
  • NO CHUNKS ALLOWED UNTIL AFTER FEBRUARY 4!
  • Yuck.
  • Nothing worse than chunky milk!
  • Haven't been to the store in over a week for groceries.
  • Just trying to get by.
  • Maybe Saturday?
  • *sigh*
  • I have no idea when.
  • It depends on how DH feels when he gets home.
  • He has no more sick days, by the way.
  • That is quite a monetary loss for the 3 days he will be out.
  • Over $1,000.
  • Beans and rice, anyone?
  • But, you know what?
  • God provides.
  • And I love Him for that.
  • He loves us.
  • He cares for us.
  • And, now that I've just read and "heard" what I wrote....
  • Well, I'm OK now.
  • Have a good night.
  • I'll try to be back soon!

Saturday, January 22, 2011

$50 Give-Away

Not from me.... no..... from my friend at Random Thoughts from the Zoo. She is promoting a cool place called SexyModest Boutique. You should go check out her blog. The stuff is FABOO!

Thursday, January 20, 2011

BULLET POST

  • Gonna do bullets, 'cause I don't know what all to talk about.
  • We've been sick.
  • Almost all of us.
  • Started out with the youngest.
  • Then, kids 3 and 2.
  • Then, Mom.
  • Yep.
  • I got sick.
  • Fortunately, #1 and Hubby didn't.
  • So far.
  • It's been cold.
  • It IS winter.
  • Guess it's to be expected.
  • Still planning on going back to teaching.
  • I'm OK with it.
  • Today.
  • Some days I am sad.
  • Most days, I'm OK.
  • So much to do.
  • Looking at all the project I want done.
  • Prioritizing.
  • What MUST be done by summer?
  • Get Master Seal.
  • Scan pictures.
  • Put together photo albums.
  • Clean out closets.
  • I'm about to turn 40.
  • Hmmmmmm.......

Monday, January 10, 2011

A...B...C...... EASY AS 1...2...3


Well, crap.

I gotta go back to work.

I'm not bitter. Really, I'm not. And, this post isn't something revealing to my hubby. He and I have talked it over and I know that I need to go back.

I don't mind, on the one hand. I'm called to be a teacher. Honestly, I am. I love teaching, and if I do say so myself, I'm a decent teacher. I enjoy middle school... which a lot of people don't. But, the people who don't enjoy teaching the age that I enjoy, well... they enjoy teaching the age I DON'T. :) However, if I need to teach 1st or 2nd grade for a year, I can.

Why?

I have had several ask me that. They know our situation... meaning they know what the 4 boys are involved in and that DH is gone 18 days a month.

It will be hard.

And that is what I dread, more than anything.

I fear I will not have enough.

Enough patience.

Enough strength.

Enough time.

Enough of me to help all of them.

My kids will be at 2 different campuses. That will be interesting.

Anyway.... why?

Well, we have 2 houses that need to be paid off.

We aren't in dire straights, by any means.

No, we want to be able to help all 4 kids with cars and college.

We want to be able to have a bit more....er..... breathing room, I guess you could say.

Certainly, my income won't be completely disposable.

There will be more eating out. More convenience foods bought. A housekeeper. A new wardrobe. Possibly, some sort of after school child care will be needed... depending on the subject and which campus I teach on.

I'm sad because I really love staying home. But, I'm not bitter, nor am I "throwin' a hiss" because I know it is necessary. It is what I need to do.

Will I teach until retirement? I can't answer that. I don't even know how much longer I need to get retirement..... another 18 years? I know that isn't much, considering. Some teachers, who start just after graduation, and teach till retirement is what.... 40 years? YEESH! I can't imagine that.

BUT, that is a long ways away..... 1 year at a time.

I say that, not as a threat, but because I'm SO NERVOUS. You remember the "dreads" I posted up above? Well, if DH starts considering a loony bin for me.... well, I just hope I'm strong enough.

And please.... I know my situation isn't bad, nor is it absolutely unique. But, it is to me.

OK.... all that being said, I have adjusted my resolutions. If they stayed the same, they are not on here. I only posted the resolutions with changes.

Thanks for reading!

Family

  • I will implement a family game or movie night once a month.

Personal Projects

  • I will tackle one "big" project per week.... through June
  • I will bake more of our snacks and treats.... instead of buying them.... through June.
  • I will try a new recipe, once a time that DH is home..... *sigh* through June
  • I will probably NOT have a garden this year.
  • I will not start couponing.
  • I will post 2 blogs per week....through June, then probably go to about 1 per week
  • I will stick to a weekly menu and housekeeping plan.... through June, then we will be sure we eat every day
Physical Goals
  • I aspire to reach my target weight BY June.... though I won't tell you what that is, or how much is needed to get there.
Entertainment
  • I will start having one-on-one time with each of the boys: once per month, per boy.
  • I will read 30 books this year.